What I Learned This Week – January 31, 2014
One month into the new year already. It is hard to believe that 30 days ago we were ringing the New Year in. My dad used to tell me that as you get older the years seem to go by quicker. I am starting to understand why. This is some of what I learned this week.
People Disappoint – I have had a couple of friends disappoint this week. I couldn’t decide if this is something to share or not, but maybe some of you also have people who let you down. The point is not that people disappoint (that is going to happen) but what you do with that. It is about how to move forward from that. Some people will just let their disappointment smolder until they get so angry they explode, or maybe you completely shut down and stop talking to those people. At the end of the day the healthiest thing to do whenever you are disappointed by someone is to let them know, discuss and move on. It gives each party the chance to explain, do some mending and some healing. I love the Bible verse that says: 26 “In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry”
Make Your Own Opportunity – I was talking to someone yesterday who shared that they were unhappy with their work situation. They were recently married and their current job situation required them to work long and strange hours. We talked about how the original intent was to work this job for awhile and use the job as a stepping stone to a couple of promotions. It now seems that promotion opportunities are slow and this person asked if the job requirements were worth what they were missing in their personal life. Only they can answer that question, but as we unpacked the other opportunities available to this person it became clear to them that they were going to need to make their own opportunities happen. They have options both within and outside their current employer and they decided it was time to explore all of the options. Too often people see themselves as stuck in certain situations, while many times there are more opportunities available to them than they think. Each of us needs to make our own opportunities. That may be within your current situation or may mean a completely new situation, but we must be our own authors of our lives. We must make our own opportunities.
This is some of what I learned this week. I hope you learned something also. Have a great Friday and don’t forget: Life is a journey, not a destination!