93 Days of Discovery – 2 Approaches to Life

I was talking to a gentlemen the other day who was sharing his life story with me. It was a very interesting tale of a man who had worked hard and had made a lot of money, had travelled the world and had done a lot of things. It was also the story of a guy who made a terrible mistake that ended with some time in jail. He is now working a job that is paying him about $10 an hour, his friends have all disappeared and he is one very unhappy man. The majority of the conversation was laced with his telling me how terrible his life was and how unhappy he is.
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The next day I was talking to a woman who had gone through a messy divorce from a man who had emotionally abused her. She told me about a rather lavish lifestyle that gave her a lot of things but she also shared how hard it had been to stay married to a husband who took many opportunities to tell her what a terrible person she was. She is also working a job that pays around $10 an hour but approached each day with a smile and genuine joy. She gives everyone she comes into contact with a big smile and a great big hello. She is one of the happiest people I know and she is quick to tell you what a great life she has.

Life is all a matter of approach isn’t it? Each of these people has gone through difficult times in their lives but each one has a different approach on how to move forward. I am often struck when I speak to people how the main thing that holds them back is the hardest thing to overcome…ourselves. We are all too often our own worst enemies. We can get either get bogged down in the negativity or we can make the most out of the situation we are in. So which approach to life are you going to take when things get tough? Here are a few thoughts:
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1) When life hands you lemons, make lemonade – I know that it seems like a silly cliché, but clichés often come from reality. Whether the problems in your life come from decisions you have made or because of things outside your control, you need to make the best from it. I love the visual idea of the lemons. Holding onto the lemons and doing nothing means you’re holding onto the sour in your life. And eventually the lemons will rot. Feelings can also be like that. Don’t hold onto the sourness but try to make something sweet from it. I find that by doing that you are able to take the first steps towards a better approach to life.

2) I love the Serenity Prayer –
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
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Whether you are a person of faith or not, the idea of the Serenity Prayer is very true and can help you in deciding which approach to life you want to take. There are some things in our lives that we either cannot change, or believe we cannot change. By accepting that you are where you are at any given moment and living in that place to the fullest is a great start to changing your approach to life.

3) Make a plan – If you have followed my blog for any length of time you have heard me say this over and over. If you are unhappy with your situation, change it. Having a plan is the best way to move forward and find a place of peace in your life. I think the easiest place to start is by grabbing a piece of paper and at the top writing down where you currently are. At the bottom of the page you write where you want to get to with a realistic time frame. In between these two, write down every step you would need to take to get there. You may have to adjust some things along the way but a plan can be a frame work into making changes in your life. Your life may be tough at the moment, but your choice is either to stay there and hope for the best or you can take control of your life and make a plan to get to where you want to.
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I guess my final question to you is…which approach to life are you going to take today? Do you want to be that negative person who dwells on the past and allows it to darken your present situation? Or would you rather be a person who enjoys every moment that you are in? The choice is yours! Live each day to fullest. Find joy in everything you do. The greatest changes have to start from within you. It is all a matter of approach. Have a great day and don’t forget: Life is a journey, not a destination!