“You have power over your mind – not out

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
― Marcus Aurelius


93 Days of Discovery – Core Values

As we begin a new month in our 93 Days of Discovery I wanted to start looking at ways that we can embrace wholeness in our lives. And the best place that I thought we could start is by spending a week looking at the personal rules of life we live by. A daunting subject no doubt. But each day this week we will look at ways to live your life to the fullest by having a group of core values and rules that you can fall back on. I know that most of you probably have them already but I find that most people have never either thought about them in a serious way and even fewer people have actually written them down. Not that I want you to post them on your front door for everyone to see, but I find that when you write things down on paper, you are also writing them into your soul. So let’s get started.
I want you to take some time over the next 24 hours and think about some of the core values you live by or want to live by. When I talk about core values I mean those beliefs that you hold deep inside you. The thing that guides every decision you make and how you treat yourself and others. Your core values are the barometer that you live by. Pretty easy? Maybe. The problem for many people is that what they believe their core values are and how they act are often at odds. And it is this reality that puts people into conflict with themselves and others. So before we go on let me give you some reasons you should define your core values:

• Your values give you purpose – it says who you are and what you believe
• Your values prevent you from making bad choices – do your choices align with your values?
• Your values make your life simpler by becoming the filter that all life’s questions are funneled through.
• They are your compass when you feel lost and need a direction
As you can see knowing your core values can help you stay on the right path and can help you to continue moving forward in your journey to wholeness.

To help you make a list of your core values I would suggest that you take a piece of paper and fold it in half. At the top of one side of the paper write: What, in life, is important to me? On the other side of the paper write: What, in life, is important for me? These are two very different questions. Write everything that comes into your mind quickly on one side of the other. Let the lists come organically. Once you can’t think of anything else continue to ponder some more and see if anything comes to you. Once you feel like you are finished, take some time to look at your lists. This is a great starting point on listing your core values. Since each of us is different with different values, I won’t pretend to have an answer for what you should include, but here are a couple of mine that I would like to share:
1) I will be the best me I can be. I will treat myself with respect. I will live each day to the fullest since I don’t know what tomorrow will bring.
2) I will be a great husband, father, grandfather and friend. I will be present in my family’s life and I will love my wife the way she deserves to be loved.
3) I will treat everyone the way I want to be treated. I will show respect to everyone I come in contact.
4) I will not let the habits of my past be a part of my today.
5) I will give 100% to everything I do.

Hopefully this has helped you see the importance of writing down your core values. It will be helpful to have your core values written down as we proceed through the week. It is going to be a full but fun week here. So get to work on your core values. And don’t forget: Life is a journey, not a destination!Core-Values